What’s Wrong with Porn?

There’s no problem with watching porn when the mood strikes. Everybody watches it, and it’s not like anybody’s getting hurt. It’s really no different than having a fantasy.

Except that it is different. For starters, you should have the mental capacity to generate your own fantasies. You had that as a child, why do you need an aid now? I’ll argue that it has something to do with the fact that you’ve been watching porn.

More importantly, I believe that watching pornography is deeply harmful. Mentally, emotional, physically, and (if you believe there’s an argument for such things) spiritually.

The more porn you watch, it seems to me, the more you need to satisfy the desire. This is similar to the cycle of drug use that takes a person from being a little adventurous at parties to being willing to do anything to get their next hit. The more deeply a drug addict pursues the artificial highs provided by their drug of choice, the lower their capacity to experience real, simple happiness. Similarly, as the ‘porn addict’ experiences more on the screen, he reaches the point where a flesh and blood woman, naked in his bed, does nothing to entice him. Thankfully, I’ve never reached this level myself, but I’ve heard stories of men, and even boys, who had. Imagine a teenager, who’s got a flood of hormones so intense that he’s likely to get an erection while thinking about bagels, being so sexually damaged from his porn viewing habits that he can’t achieve an erection when there’s an attractive girl there, willing to provide him with the real thing.

The way this differs from the drug analogy is that more of the same thing never seems to be sufficient. After watching the same video a couple times, you need to move on to something different. Maybe a new position, or a new girl, or a new guy, hell maybe two new guys. If you allow this cycle to continue, you will likely end up in a place where you’re watching, and getting pleasure from, things that you honestly consider to be repulsive.

I even have a theory that most men who watch child pornography start out with no tendency toward pedophilia. Rather, it’s simply the ultimate conclusion of chasing taboo. Part of the draw of pornography is that you’re not supposed to watch it. Once all the things I’m too timid to publicly admit having watched become mundane, you have to find another thing you’re not supposed to watch. If you follow this all the way through, you’ll find yourself watching something that every measure of decency, and even the law, forbids.

My own decision to swear off pornography came at a time when a man I knew, and generally thought of as a good guy, was arrested on child pornography charges. He said at the time, according to a news article about his arrest, that it was just something he started doing in the last couple years. Assuming he was being honest in this, I can’t imagine he simply had a switch flipped in his head, during his late thirties, which suddenly turned him into a pedophile. More likely, it was this cycle of escalation, which led to him enjoying something others (and I imagine even he) would view as horrifying.

I would say that the best solution is to forgo watching pornography all together, but I doubt most men would go for that. I’ve personally found myself drawn back to it in the years since I first came to the conclusion that watching it was harmful.

Instead, perhaps those reading this should simply resolve to limit their exposure. Swearing off internet porn may be a good first step. If you only have access to pornography that you have to buy in a store, there is a natural limit to the previously mentioned escalation.

After all, the problems people complain about concerning their excessive porn habits seem to be unique to the information age. Despite the religious fervor that stood in opposition to pornography in decades past, assuming it would turn every man who dared view it into a sexual deviant and moral degenerate, I’ve never read any account predating my adulthood that listed impotence as a potential side effect, yet a quick perusal of forums on the topic today will show just this.

So for the sake of your mental, emotional, spiritual, and notably sexual well-being, consider limiting or, preferably, eliminating your exposure to pornography. If nothing else, it may keep you from becoming an impotent pedophile.

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